a young woman that’s only been married 5 years, i’ve found these truths to be VERY encouraging… i’ve learned that my husband and i are on the right track, even though it doesn’t look like the hollywood love story….. this has been VERY freeing and encouraging for our relationship. i wouldn’t have come to this freeing understanding if it weren’t for a few key conversations that i’ve found myself exposed to over the past few years.

that’s one of the main reasons why i wanted to encourage (within the proper context) a healthy, discreet, and realistic conversation about marital intimacy.

I totally agree with your stance, Mandy….. Sex is very important……

“We need to have more of it… We need to encourage each other”.

Does that mean you will take my kids Friday so we can do it? Take them for several hours – we need to get caught up on sleep first.

So, how do you people with all the kiddos fit it in? Baby #2, a 2 year old, two jobs for the hubbie and not near enough sleep for either of us. Did I mention middle of the night feeds, the toddler that has nightmares 3-4 times nightly, laundry baskets spread round the house, and the list goes on and on. Is evening play even possible? I fear I might fall asleep!

Besides, feeding a baby all-day (and all that it entails) doesn’t necessarily leave a girl feeling too sexy.

So, here’s the question: how do you shift modes? Usually it just feels like it’ll take WAY TOO MUCH energy to switch gears from “Exhausted Mommy” to “Sex Goddess”.

Mandy, I am definitely ‘pro-sex’ ( you know me- we’ve had many discussions about this! ) As I read your blog I felt passionate about finding answers to this epidemic that plagues many American families. Sex, toddlers and babies? Do they really go together? How?
I also want to add that my husband (Shannon) and I wrote this response together!

My OB/Gyn told me to go commando. She had her reasons for giving me that advise, and believe me, it had nothing to do with sex, nor do I believe that it is a sexual habit, just a preference.

Sharing the fact that it drives my husband wild is just that, a fact. It is not getting into any details or graphics of our intimate relationship…to me it would be no different than saying he likes my hair curly or when I wear the brown sweater he bought me.

I do agree that there is something precious that happens between a husband and wife that shouldn’t be shared. Intimacy is meant to be sacred and private. Yes. Although, this was just a fun little conversation about underware, or the lack there of…pretty harmless.

I think THIS was an awesome post.

However, some habits make marriage life sexy because you are the only two who know. Your secrets are your secrets. They bind you as much as the crazy times themselves. To share them. Well, it’s almost to me like a best friend telling someone else of “our stuff”. Trust can be damaged.

As to stumbling, that’s an issue in answering some “hot questions” cross gender. I wouldn’t like to think a married man compared our experiences to theirs and felt…anything. It’s not relevant, and it can easily happen.

Everyone has their own flame starters, and those are theirs to savor for what they are.

This post is healthy and true. I’m just not sure about the real health of group discussions cross-gender on the www. concerning personal sexual habits. Just 15 years of marriage talking.

This will be the most linked post by men in the blog world!