ok. fine. i’m a lurker, too.

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what’s a lurker?

someone who reads a blog but never comments. kind of like peaking in a window – lurking around at night – there, but not wanting to be seen.

it’s time for me to confess that i’ve broken our cardinal rule around here: NO LURKING ALLOWED.

but, i’m not THAT kind of a lurker. i only lurk around one blog. see? that’s not too bad.

where do i lurk? bring the rain

i’ve been reading it off and on for a few months now. “off and on” because my heart can’t take it every day. her writing is incredible. sincere. vulnerable. real. the story – the reason behind the blog – is breathtaking. heartbreaking.

the posts will rip your soul out, wring it dry, then put it back in with a freshness of faith that i can’t even explain.

sarah markley – it’ll ruin you.

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so do you lurk anywhere?

any of my lurkers wanna show themselves?

47 thoughts on “ok. fine. i’m a lurker, too.”

  2. i’m not a lurker whether it’s on a blog or in real life…hard to keep that yap shut…

    that being said, bring the rain…not gonna even attempt to comment there…WOW!

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  5. yeah, i lurked at bring the rain for awhile, but finally took the plunge and left a comment awhile back. i don’t know why … what could i possibly have to offer? i guess i just wanted her to know how much her blog has affected me.

    i lurk at boo mama and big mama sometimes too.

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  6. KA: LOL!!! and how many times have i read over this post title since i wrote it a few weeks ago. duh.

    Jon: good to know you don’t lurk. you’re a better man than me!!! :)

    heidi: chilly? i’ll check it out!

    HEY RACHEL!

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  7. okay, you nabbed me… i lurk here all the time. but, b/c i’m “old” (older than 50) i hesitate to comment, but love reading the blog and comments… it helps keep me younger thinking and alive….
    i also lurk at Beth Moore’s but rarely leave a comment b/c she has so many

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  8. You plan your blogs ‘weeks’ in advance??? This is a whole new realm for me! You are breaking up my paradigm girl! (That is a good thing.)

    I am a bit leery about going over there now. Sounds heavy.

    I do lurk at some blogs. :-) I think it is ok. I wonder if there are lurkers on mine…

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  9. Merrie: I MISS YOUR COMMENTS!!! i really do. :) good to know you are still around here. yay!

    @ngie: i currently have a few dozen possible posts saved up. some i won’t use at all, but i wrote a lot a few months ago. and i have creative spurts of writing a half-dozen or so. then i save them & get to them eventually. there’s NO WAY i could keep this going on the fly with working full-time right now. so, there, now you know my blog super-secret: LOTS of pre-written posts. don’t tell anybody, though.

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  11. i do the same with tons of draft posts. i even post-date-publish them when i’m on the road or won’t have internet access for a while, etc…

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  16. I’ve been lurking at Bring The Rain for awhile now. Having lost 3 children myself, I can identify with her pain and her determination to trust in God’s plan in spite of it.

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  17. I lurked here for a long time before leaving a comment.

    I was lead to Bring the Rain and once I started reading I couldn’t stop. I cried and cried. I felt so blessed to have my healthy children. But most of all I felt God. I felt him in their lives. I felt him talking to everybody through Angie. Her vulnerability is amazing. My heart broke again for their family when their nephew passed. Starts the tears welling up again. That you can still read the faith that they have in God even after the lose.

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  18. theresa: really? and what finally made you give in and comment?

    giveme: ouch… wow. i’m sure reading there is like therapy for you…

    JudiFree: bless your heart!! haha!!!

    Jen: i haven’t read today. my heart is too soft already. it’ll probably be a while ’til i get back there.

    Kristi: shut. it.

    nat: and i NEED the love!!!

    al: me too. me too. pretty much everything y’all get is pre-posted-published, or whatever ya call it.

    @ng: THANK YOU!!! WHEW

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  19. I lurk. Yes, I am a lurker.

    I’m in a painful place these days and so I choose not to comment many times…my words can be somewhat heavy. I do enjoy reading when others are having a good time. Many blogs have worked to lighten my mood. Yours being toward the top! ;)

    I lurked here a LONG time before introducing myself, maybe I’m just shy. :???:

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  22. Okay, I think my other comment went to SPAM. :???: *grumble*grumble*

    I just went and read todays post over there. Don’t go. If you are in any way feeling sappy today, don’t go.

    I held my breath while reading it. With my hand over my pounding chest. And tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat. While I listened to my babies playing in the other room.

    Nothing I read ever puts life into MORE perspective than her blog.

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  25. Oh I lurk. I lurk more than I comment, frankly.
    But man, do I ever lurk at Bring the Rain. Her words tug at my heart, bring tears to my eyes and take me straight to my God.
    Whew – just thinking about it makes me get all watery-eyed.

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  26. michelle: don’t hesitate to be honest around here, if it wells up in your heart. even if it’s heavy. we all have heavy moments. love you…

    bwan: have no fear! supermandy to the rescue!!!!

    steph: you. made. my. day.

    jon: we do what we can here at me.com to help out you.com. because we care.

    kara: bring the rain really brings the rain. snort snort. sorry. i just got home from the gym and am in a GOOFY mood. but i was watching the news while slowly killing myself on the cybex machine, and noticed that it’s as hot here as there! i NEVER thought the day would come!!

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  27. Mandy, I finally gave in and stopped lurking because of your post yesterday. I just really felt that I needed to comment. I am a but-in-ski. Besides Natalie really did link me to you in the case of the missing dog….I still think she “accidentally” left the gate open…LOL

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  31. Hi, My name is Paloma, and I’m an occasional lurker.
    (Hi Paloma!)

    Thought I’d introduce myself and come out of hiding. I really enjoy your blog and all the comments…so maybe now I’ll join in the fun more often.

    Nice to “meet” you all!

    and man…now I really want to check out bring the rain…but sobbing at work probably isn’t a great idea!

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  32. thanks for stopping by and not becoming a lurker!! haha.
    yeah, poo on the shoe..not so nice! glad your shoes are clean.

    and, that song you wrote for your hubby and what you said about it, made me a lil teary! can’t wait to someday know what you’re talking/singing about….ahhhh….

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  33. you realize that i lurk here sometimes too. you all have this beautiful conversation going and I just can’t keep up! I really try, but I don’t have much to offer here either a lot of the time! =)

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  35. I must confess – I am a big time lurker. I love reading your posts (and yes, love reading “Bring The Rain” too) but I just seem to always be in a rush I don’t comment as much.

    Anyway, I came out or lurker kingdom to thank you for visiting my blog and commenting (you and Andrew – ok just you and the mistaken identity :) .

    I also intent to reply on my comments lie you do – even in the comment section itself. I also am bad at time. But that’s my goal. I want to be more interactive.

    Have a nice day!

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  37. oh the madness of lurkers…

    Paloma: you made my day!

    bright: LOVED your blog. and i hope you know that love someday too. happy late birthday.

    Sarah: i would never think you a lurker. you comment too frequently. i know you’re out there. :)

    Liza: woman! less lurking and more interacting ~ it does the blogger’s heart GOOD!

    Jon: bless your soul. i’m so sorry. they’re out there. they just are… always. in the shadows…

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  40. Hi Mandy!

    Sometimes I lurk… at my blog! ;-) Hehehehe

    Seriously, I lurk in 5-10 blogs everyday… in different blogs in my search of real good ones. There are blogs I keep going back to, but seldom comment.

    Sometimes, I am too lazy to type my thoughts, especially when the topic requires lot of thinking.

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  43. By the way, I don’t lurk on my own blog. It takes so much effort to write just one Essay that once it’s published, I seldom, if ever, want to think about it again.

    Seriously.

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  44. TheNor: you don’t lurk? :roll: you should ~ it’s fun!!! but i can understand why you want to get away from it. you put a LOT of thoughts into your writings. me? i just post whatever! :)

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  45. Yhahahaahahahahaahha!

    Good morning, Nor! How are you? Hope all’s well? Ok, I’m not gonna tell you you’re one of them then. Just so you wouldn’t feel bad. ;-)

    Hi Mandy. That’s a precious secret you just shared! Won’t tell anybody. ;-) Will let you in on one of my secrets, too. You can tell everybody except the Nor. I think many of his blog posts qualify in the “requires lot of thinking” category. Well thought-out, eh? Hush…
    :-)

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  47. I lurk. I’m lurking now. I’m JUST lurking, though. I’m not really reading Brainy’s comment. ‘Cause, you know, I don’t want her to know that I “feel bad.” And, plus, Mandy said she wasn’t going to say what Brainy said. Otherwise, I’m “gonna die” if I know. So I can’t know. That you know. What I don’t know. You know?

    But, yeah. I lurk. Not on my own blog, but I lurk.

    Sometimes.

    I think.

    Maybe.

    Here and there. ;)

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