Tonight is our Date Night. We usually have a Date Night on Tuesday nights, but had to rearrange our schedule this week. This is important to note for two reasons: 1) we have a regularly appointed Date Night. 2) even when scheduling conflicts arise, we still have a Date Night.
Ok. Now, back to what I was saying… Tonight is our Date Night. And I am SO looking forward to this night. More so than in weeks past. And for good reason.
This week, my husband has been amazing. We’ve been busy. We’ve been out of touch. But, he has chased after me. This week he’s expressed some things to me that have called my heart to respond to him, and I don’t even think he’s realized what he’s done:
- I really miss you.
- I know we have this meeting on Tuesday. So when will we have our Date Night?
- I want to connect with you. I know it’s late. But, I want to hear how your day has gone.
- Gurrrl… (in an accent that leaves me in stitches) You know we got a Date Night on Thursday. You better not make no other plans.
- Do you have anyone for moral support when you get your hair cut? If you don’t, I’ll go with you. (Ok. Seriously. That right there spells R-O-M-A-N-C-E. Be still my beating heart.)
I feel loved.
I feel wanted.
I feel valued.
I feel in-love.
I’m remembering what it felt like to be courted – dated – pursued. I’m remembering just how “irresistable” he can be. (Sorry. Couldn’t come up with a better phrase. We did resist, y’all. We did. That 3 1/2 month engagement was the LOOOOOONGEST season of our lives… I’m just sayin.)
(Ahem.)
Back to NOW. My heart is ready to be with him. I’m excited about our date. About connecting. Having some time for just the two of us. There’s no one else on the face of the earth that I’d rather spend my time with than him.
No one.
So… Let’s talk about this. What can married people do to still “court?” Still flirt? Still pursue? Still experience romance?
Sorry, I’m out of this one… no spouse in my house.
However, I will say that even in non-spouse terms I think the simple kindnesses mean so much more than the grand gestures.
“no spouse in my house” great line – sounds lyrical!
That’s one sweet dude you’ve got!
We are going to go pick up “The Love Dare” to read it together and just learn. Like they say in the movie “Fireproof” we need to treat marriage like school…study your spouse. Study til you have the highest degree available and that will take a lifetime!!
Be intentional.
Think of your spouse more than you think of yourself. (It works really well if your spouse does this, too
Learn the love language of your spouse and then git bih-zee lovin’ him/her that way.
Send text messages about how much money you saved when filling up your gas tank.
Did I say that outloud?
HAHA! Yes. Yes you did!
Jennifer: The Love Dare – need to look into that.
I think prayer works best.
My prayer for you two has been a deeper intimacy with God and each other daily.
I think you’re doing it. That. Is awesome.
My husband text messages me all the time things like….
“Wish’n it was lunch so can see you”
We flirt all day when we are apart. It is great fun. We also have inside jokes. So when we are home and “mom and dad” we can giggle and something that makes us “Guy and Doll”.
We also have a date time every week. Saturday mornings.
10 Days and we are headed to Hawaii!! No kids or Father In Law!!!
mandy, that’s awesome to read. i hope you had a great night.
i have a good husband. love that boy. i’m so proud of him.
First of all: “There’s no one else on the face of the earth that I’d rather spend my time with than him.” ME TOO!!! Only, with MY hubby. Notcho’s.
Anyway, my hubby and I kinda do the same “date night” idea, only it’s not a specific night every week. One of my favorite things he does is spontaneously ask me to go out with him (he’s the farthest thing from being a truly spontaneous person). But if he sees that I’m looking especially cute, even if we may not have much money, he’ll say “Where can we go in town so that I can show you off?”
And THAT makes me melt every. single. time.
my honey has discovered my love language… texting.
i know. i’m a geek.
we used to joke we walked carelessly on the edge of the “twitter heard round the world” since he could never quite figure out if he was texting or if he was twittering. it just got too dangerous. he doesn’t twitter any more.
(he’s quite accomplished at text, though)
drink.
im just kidding!!!! you can delete if you must
carolyn, texting? thats so hilarious!
about romance in marriage…that yeah, it’s possible. not convenient a lot of times, but possible! we’re in our 14th yr. of bein’ together and we’re still comin’ up w/new things. course $$ helps, but it’s def. not nec. – if you have a way to swap kids w/a friend and walk around downtown together holding a coffee in one hand and each other with the other, it’s all good…like ethan hawke says to winona ryder in “reality bites” :
Troy:: See Lainy, this is all we need. A couple of smokes, a cup of coffee, and a little bit of conversation. You and me and five bucks.
Lelaina:: You got it!
case-in-point: my hubs got tickets to a concert (one of our fave artists, marc broussard), but the guy who bought them couldn’t go, so ricky asked me! we had the best time. we were just ourselves together. we talked. we got starbucks & new jersey style pizza, we got front row (thanks baby for being so anal about getting there early and waiting in line!), we made fools of ourselves, we met cool people, we got our groove on, we sang, we shot videos of the concert, we got home late…and stayed up even later.
we got to know each other better that night…and we got some kick-*@%! memories
now, ain’t that what it’s all about?
wow. that’s all i’ve got. (and the deep wonder of what i can do to cause that kind of an incredible heart-turned-toward-me-ness…)