When I met Drew, I can’t say that I immediately fell in love, but I definitely fell into like… And I remember the exact moment when that “like” turned into “love.” Oh my gosh I’ll never forget the details of that night. It happened about 8 weeks after I met him, and involved the beach, the rain, and a food fight.
We were in youth ministry, and the girls were being ambushed by the guys. In a matter of minutes, he picked me up in his arms – both of us covered in all manner of rotten food – and carried me into the waves. I didn’t notice the rain until we steadied ourselves – whew. It was one of those “movie moments” where their eyes meet, through a haze of ocean waves, rain, and ketchup… And in that moment I knew. I knew I felt something I’d never felt before.
Just a few days later, I told my mom about him, and picked out my wedding gown as well as the song we’d dance to at our wedding. The next week we went on our first date.
That night was very intense and I fell VERY in love, but it was very different from the moment I first met him. For me, there was a distinct difference.
So. Do you believe in love at first sight? Anyone out there experienced it?
Heavens no! When I met my wife, we couldn’t stand each other. It took several years for us to move from HATE to LOVE.
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As I type this she says “yeah, I’m almost there.” We’ve been married 8 years! Pardon me while I commit some much deserved spousal abuse
Love at first sight?
Nah. I usually just walk by again.
(Of course, for me, it’s a long trip. ‘Cause, like, I’m still walking.)
Toby:
Yours has been one of the most memorable comments any has ever left here. Uhhmm, thanks…?
I guess I would say maybe and I hope so.
(Girl. Now you’re gonna get sucked into the internet. Beware. If you’re keeping your blog, put the url in the comment form next time!
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I thought so once a upon a time and when I fell, I fell hard and then even harder when we just couldn’t make it work! Maybe it can happen again but I have to say I am a little more cynical this time around!
I know I am totally gonna get sucked way in lol, but I like the idea of keeping a blog even if no one reads it. I mean who would want to anyways besides maybe you. Its just me complaining. lol, but since I read yours its only fair.
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I think you are right about falling into like and know this could be it. But you really can’t truly love someone without knowing them. I mean if someone said I love you to me the first moment I saw them I wouldn’t really believe it. So I think there are strong things that happen on that first meeting, but love is a long term thing.
Thanks for writing about this. It reminded me of me and my husband beginnings. We too had a rainy experience.
yes.
kinda like that but without the ketchup and the ocean.
there was a guitar, though.
i love that i heard this story in person.
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hearing my man preach and watching his heart in action made me fall from like to love.
I don’t think so.
Infatuation, sure.
But love, real love takes time.
What a lovely story! I almost got teary-eyed…
I fell into crush with my fiance at first sight. A month later we went on a date and I fell into like. Two months later we got snowed into his house and I fell in love.
Huh. I was expecting to get more “yes’s” than this…
Interesting!
So, could this be one more example in the argument that Hollywood is feeding us a pack of lies with their take on falling in love???
I think it is the “Happily Ever After” that is the unrealistic part. My experience was like something out of a movie….I think I even used this phrase when talking to a friend about it. It all happened so fast and it was totally unexpected. Trying to make it work in the day to day though is a whole different story, especially when it is a long distant relationship. We loved each other, there was no doubt about that, but it has to be more than just love sometimes. Not sure what though.
Commitment. Choice.
I think those are the things that last, even when that first love fades.
I don’t love Drew now like I loved him 8 years ago… Some might think that love less strong, because it’s less giddy and infatuated and obsessed. But, others might think it far stronger now, because it’s centered on commitment and trust and loyalty and choice.
Either way, what I have now is a VASTLY different love from Hollywoods… But I’d argue that my love is the real “happily ever after” kind, because we aren’t looking solely to each other for our happiness. That’s a new post for another day, though.
Ram: I do wanna say though, that a broken heart is a broken heart, no matter what. And I’m sure yours hurt real bad after that…
It did and even talking about it today has brought me face to face with some feelings. There are days, especially when the loneliness sets in that I question would the outcome have been different if I had made some different decisions but there is peace in knowing that I went where I felt God was leading me to go and not my heart. Even though he was good for me, I realize now that he wasn’t God’s best for me. Maybe that is the thing that Hollywood leaves out.
“think those are the things that last, even when that first love fades.
I don’t love Drew now like I loved him 8 years ago… Some might think that love less strong, because it’s less giddy and infatuated and obsessed. But, others might think it far stronger now, because it’s centered on commitment and trust and loyalty and choice”
This blew me away. Thank you.
I don’t necessarily believe in love at first sight. But more of like may quickly turn into love, yes.
I didn’t used to think something like that could happen at all.
Then I fell into like with someone I didn’t know, and that changed. (The love part never happened)
I was actually going to blog about it tomorrow, so I shall keep the story to myself until then.
The hollywood version of love isn’t really right at all. Their love is about you and all the things you want. God’s definition of love is giving up yourself for the sake of the other.
Ram: Hollywood leaves a LOT out. #1 discrepancy = REALITY.
H: anytime, darlin’ – anytime.
*love* at first sight? I think it’s more love-potential at first sight. The person I absolutely fell in love with, the first time I saw him… we didn’t even speak or meet until quite awhile after… it was like everything in the room shifted. It wasn’t a lust/attraction thing even… it was that the air changed. I wasn’t “in love” with him in that first-sight moment, but I knew I was supposed to pay attention.
Whew. I’m sweating just reading that…
i feel a bit intrusive reading your story. it was so…intimate. i think im blushing.
dang.
i liked B, A LOT when i first saw him. of course, he didnt have a mullet then. that couldve easily been a deal breaker!
I definitely think it’s possible to have an instant connection with someone. (That’s what I’d call you and Drew.)
I wouldn’t go so far as to call it love, because as far as I understand love, it comes from time and shared experiences.
So in my opinion, love at first sight doesn’t even make sense.
I can’t say that I did. I always felt comfortable around him, though. Always. And I expected him to like me from the moment I saw him … so it wasn’t a shock when he did. (That’s not arrogant … that really was the first thought I had when I saw him.) I spent a long time pondering him, though … because I wanted to be sure I was making the right decision for the right reasons. I can’t say I’ve ever been really ‘twitterpated’ over my hubby – but my heart is at home, at peace, one with, completely at ease with … his. And it’s always been that way. (minus the ‘one with,’ I suppose … that doesn’t happen at first sight.) I suppose I’ve always valued contentment over excitement. huh
I think we’re all saying the same thing here… Which is VERY good and very affirming.
So, I guess we all know what ‘true’ love really means…?
Ugh – I’m so late to comment here! I just couldn’t figure out what to say while I was at work. Anyway, I’m basically just echoing everyone else – I think it’s possible to have an instant connection, but real love takes time.
I met my husband when I was 15 and he was 17 – I wouldn’t say I fell in LOVE with him that night…but we had an instant connection.
Nope. We didn’t like each other at the beginning and then…one night, saying goodbye, “the air changed”. I so identify with Sara. I remember it clearly. It was like someone struck a match in a dark room. A teeny-tiny flame began to flicker.
for me, yes. I think I’ve told you on here most of our story before. We were set up by a mutual friend. Talked on the phone every night for about 3 hours most of the week before we ever met in person. I was working at KMart at the time during college…he walked in one night. Wow. I knew, but it scared the crap out of me…I was only 21. We were engaged 2 weeks after that night and married 8 months later. We met in April 1993, so that’s been nearly 16 years ago. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God has created no other man who could be a better husband and partner for me.
Kim, that’s such a cool story!
Not sure how I missed this post before…anyway…
I do believe in love at first sight cos I’ve just known too many people who’ve experienced it.
For me and my wife, it was more love at first msg…long story involving ChristianCafe.com, PalTalk, airfares, etc
Totally.
Yes.
I married him.
This may sound really lame because I know it’s not what you are asking…but I fall more and more in love every time I see Daniel when I see him “for the first time” – like when he walks in a room or first thing in the morning. He is seriously the love of my life and I can’t imagine anything more pure.