How to follow your soul.

Just last night, I shared with my art journal students that I can’t figure out why yellow is such an integral part of my pages. I’d estimate that 60% of the pages are prominently yellow. I don’t yet know why this is the case, especially since I’ve known purple and blue and red as favorite colors. And now it’s so yellow.

I used this example to help my students see that we will often find ourselves drawn to forms of expression that we can’t quite figure out. It’s important to pay attention to what we’re doing in our art journals when no one else is looking. When no one else’s expectations come on us. These are signs and roadmarkers to where we really want to be.

We often travel through life using someone else’s map. We do what we think we’re “supposed” to do. This is ok. This is what it means to be a responsible adult, right? But responsible adults also know their own unique role in society. They are self-aware and show up for the task they have been born to do.

And sometimes, what we’re born to do and what we’re “supposed” to do are in conflict.

Through art journaling, I have the opportunity to hold a mirror-like page before my students, and ever so subtly ask them, “What do you see?”

Most of them are a bit surprised, and even pleased, with what’s on the page. But we work hard to create an environment of free and unfiltered self expression in the class. I encourage them not to question themselves in their paint choices, word choices, image choices. Why is this important? Because, when we open ourselves up to true expression, we will find that our hearts speak louder than a whisper. They speak clearly. We just need to give them a place to speak. And when we really stop and listen, we will hear things that our souls have been trying to say for so long. We will know ourselves more deeply than before, and we’ll do a much better job of following and caring for our own souls.

Who are you sitting with?

I’ve been sitting with Ann Voskamp and Mary Oliver for quite some time. And I’ve recently had a moment with Emerson. And I’m still slowly strolling along with Madeleine L’Engle.

I read their words slowly and deliberately, letting the warmth of their words roll down into my soul. No gulping or gorging. Just sipping.

Our time is honorable, like a Japanese tea ceremony. I have to carefully place the settings. I have to clear and quiet my mental space, make room for their words. Make room for their revelations. Make room for their light.

I take their words in slowly, savoring the moment. I sit with them and interact with their words and honor their words by giving them the proper space and time.

When tea is made with water drawn from the depths of mind

Whose bottom is beyond measure,

We really have what is called cha-no-yu.

Toyotomi Hideyoshi

I think that’s how we are to take in the greats. Sip by sip.

Who are you sitting with? Whose words are like tea drawn from the depths of the mind?

A chance for some good ol’ fashioned butt-kicking! (A Giveawayyy!!)

Just a few months ago, I had the chance to sit down with Jeff Goins, who has richly influenced my writing over the past ten months. He’s a brilliant writer and I wasn’t going to waste the opportunity to learn more from… I mean, meet him.

We talked about sources of inspiration and hiding from all the noise and unplugging from social media. We talked about finding ways to find your words when they’re all lost. We talked music and songwriting and I confessed to him that I’m so distracted/enamored by Adele’s voice that I haven’t paid much attention to her songwriting skills.

I don’t think he judged me for that.

And now, Jeff is rocking the writing world, flying through the ranks and leaping over his peers in a single bound. His blog is at the top of the list of 2011′s Top Ten Blogs for Writers. He is generous with resources and in fact I’ve been molded by his “Intentional Blogging” course. All of that is pretty cool, but the most exciting part is that he’s just signed a writing contract and will be published in the not-too-distant future.

I say all this to say: dude knows what he’s talking about.

Some of my favorite recent blog posts include:

He’s recently released a pair of e-books that are valuable writing tools. To get a copy of both “Before Your First Book” and “The Truth About Writing” leave a comment below. Drew, my amazing mathematician husband, will pick three numbers on our hot date tonight and I’ll announce the winners on the morning of manana.

Sound good?

How to talk to yourself so you can be heard.

Most of us think we don’t have anything to say. But the reality is that we’ve just stopped listening to ourselves. We’ve stopped allowing ourselves to speak from a deep place. The Deep Place where the soul meets sunshine for a moment of clarity and thought. If we aren’t willing to get quiet and listen, then we won’t have anything to say at all.

You’ll never find real answers if you’re afraid to ask real questions.

And, you’ll never find real answers if you aren’t willing to answer the real questions.

For example, what is important to me?

  • love
  • friendship
  • conversation
  • creativity
  • family
  • vulnerability
  • acceptance

What things are important to you?

These are the things that are word-worthy. That mean much to us. That are breath and life and living. Those things should have words. Words on pages that may never be read. Or in secret conversations in the late of night that fall between you and your love or you and your God or you and your friend. By all means, give them words.

Words cannot be words without breath. And so life cannot be life without breath. And faith cannot be faith without breath. What is it if it has no breath? It is dead.

Give your truth breath. Speak it. Say it. Offer it to the ears of the world. And to the ears of yourself. Declare it. Write it down. Breath it out to someone else. Make it real. Make it alive. Make it full of breath. Put your breath–your exhale–in it and send it on it’s way.

We cannot live our realities if we are denying them. We cannot live out our pursuits if we are being silenced. Surround yourself with people who don’t silence you, but who cheer on your voice. Bring them into your world and let them speak their words to you so you can find your own voice. Get used to the sound of your voice and let it be the vessel you use to declare truth and love to the world. What are we without our own voices? mute… lifeless… messageless…

Don’t mute yourself. Amplify yourself. You have something to say that’s worth saying. Say it. If it’s worthy of words, give it words.

Give it words.