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When it doesn’t make sense…

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We sat at “The Sandbar” restaurant, overlooking white sand and breaking waves, while hiding from the onslaught of August’s sunshine. Somewhere between my Island Salad and my Chicken Quesadilla, I noticed two dark slits just a few degrees above the horizon, with a foggy gray haze below.

I watched them endlessly–Drew barely able to maintain a conversation with me.

After bringing them up about a half-dozen times, he gave in and we settled on the fact that they were helicopters. Hovering. Slightly moving, but mainly hovering.

Of course, when he stepped up from his seat, ready to leave, I couldn’t help but steal one more glance out the window.

He appeasingly rattled off:

“They could be armed forces, running a mission.”
“Or coast guard, saving someone.”
“Or scientists studying something.”

I was satisfied, and we left.

And, I couldn’t help but think: That’s me. That’s what I do when something in life doesn’t make sense to me. I think about it. I talk about it. I stare at it. I practically study it. I don’t like it when things don’t make sense. I will make them make sense, even if it’s wrong–if I’m wrong. I’d rather have order and reason than have chaos and irrationality.

But, I’m learning to accept that some things don’t make sense. Some things just are as they are. And there’s no way to change them or understand them. I’m getting there. Slowly.

But, in the meantime: how do you handle the things of life that just don’t make sense sometimes?

Would You Rather…?

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Drew and I had a fun lazy summer afternoon convo a few weeks ago. Here’s a snippet:

  1. Would you rather have no ears OR no thumbs?
  2. Would you rather live off of Chicken Noodle Soup and water but be able to read for the rest of your life, OR spend the rest of your life eating/drinking whatever you want but remain illiterate forever?
  3. Would you rather have endless money but no traveling out of state, OR unlimited traveling while living off $40,000 a year?
  4. Would you rather have 4 inch long fingernails or toenails?

So… Go on. Feel free to answer the questions. :)

We have a story.

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Last night, Drew looked over my shoulder as I admired Tam’s shiny new blog. He said, “you’ve met some really cool people through the internet.”

I agreed, and he continued with “you’ve also met some really sexy people through the INstitution of marriage.”

I laugh, “You’re funny.”

And then, with a mischievous look in his eye: “I’VE met some really sexy people through the institution of marriage as well!”

He still flirts. And I still laugh. And we still get along (most days). We’ve been married seven years now, and those years have flown by. Packed full of fun and love and laughter and adventure and difficult moments.

About those difficult moments… There’s an element of my life – of our life – that I want to tell you about. Well, really, that I need to write about. Process. Work through. Get through.

I’ve kept it off my blog for a long time now… Long enough. So, on days when I’m feeling up-to-it, I will share bits and pieces of this story. And I’ll call it “The Waiting,” because that’s what it’s about… Waiting.

What about you? If you have one, have you shared your “story” somewhere? I’d love to read it.

Husbands: How to Lead Your Marriage, and Make Your Wife Fall In Love with You Again.

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What a presumptuous title, eh?!? But, listen…

Husbands, I have a fool-proof way for you to do some leading in your marriage, AND make your wife fall in love with you all over again. Trust me, it can be done. It’s a win-win! :)

Drew got this idea from our pastor & his wife, who pick a theme for their marriage each year. Or maybe he got it from the “hey-let’s-do-this” look I gave him during that convo. Either way, he still gets credit.

Our 7-year-anniversary was last week, and during our long weekend-getaway he unveiled our theme for this year:

The Year Of Attention

It might not sound romantic, but it dang sure lights my fire. Wait. I mean, I really like it. He picked this theme because this is the first year in a long while where we have to push through life to pay attention to our marriage. And it also may be the last year we have the freedom to pay so much attention, with hopes and dreams of Tiny Thompsons taking over our world eventually (cue squeals of delight from almost everyone we know).

Now, for you systematic thinkers like Drew, the action steps are split into two sub-points:

  1. We talk. This involves things like a marriage small-group or book or seminar. Things that improve our communication and help us understand one another.
  2. We time. We’ll do stuff like take a few getaways together. Or have a regular date night – and not just mindlessly watching a movie.

Stuff like that.

And it was Drew’s idea, remember? He is leading us through the theme this year. He thought it all out over weeks, considering both of our interests and needs.

The idea of a “year-theme” sounds simple, but it may be the best thing we can do for our marriage. It’s an “us” thing. Exclusive. Achievable. Goal-oriented. Beneficial. It gives us a rallying point to stay focused on the most important relationship we have.

So, whaddya think? What if you fellas did this, too? What if you to initiate this in your marriage?

I think she’ll love it.

Because he’s better than me at nearly everything but cooking and singing. Yes. He’s even better at blogging.

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So my husband got a kick out of my cell phone the other day, even though it really frustrated and confused me. I’m not gonna spoil the surprised by telling you why. But I will let you read HIS side of the story.

On his blog.

Yes, he actually has one, y’all. And he posts once a in a blue millenium.

And, if you’re wondering whether or not you should click on over, I’ll give you the first sentence as a preview:

OK, so Mandy’s phone woke up early the other morning and found itself several hundred miles to the east.